I've been watching my friend Erin as she teaches her four little girls to resolve conflicts.
When one child does something mean to another child, such as taking away a toy, or acting rudely during playtime, Erin approaches the child in a calm voice with a simple statement. "Dear child, why has this toy become more important than your sister today?" Or "Little one, why is winning more important than your relationship with your brother today?"
I love the simplicity of helping your child realize their selfish nature and remember the value of people over things. Now if I can just remember to use this strategy with my own children in the heat of complex! Isn't it great to learn from each other? I'm so grateful for my mommy friends!