Happy Easter

He is Risen!
What a glorious fact!
Take time to ponder, worship and celebrate his resurrection!

Come visit us at the National Center for Biblical Parenting

This week I was invited to write a guest blog post for Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller at the National Center for Biblical Parenting.  Come visit us there to read the post - A Creative Look at Building Character

Book Review: My Very First Easter Story Sticker Book

My Very First Easter Story Sticker Book
by Lois Rock; illustrated by Alex Ayliffe


This is a very cute sticker and activity book for preschool children. The story is told in clear and simple sentences. The pictures and stickers are bright colorful and clear. The seek and find activities will continue to keep children engaged after reading the story. So they can read the story once with a parent, put stickers on the pages the second time through, and experience the story a third time by following the activity prompts at the bottom of each page. Repetition is a key to absorbing and remembering information, so I really like the idea of this book.  I received this book from the publisher in exchange for my honest review.

Guest Post – Consistency is Overrated from Scott Turansky

Special thanks to Dr. Scott Turansky for today's blog post!  He is co-author with Joanne Miller, RN, BSN of The Christian Parenting Handbook published by Thomas Nelson.  I was privileged to preview their book last week, and it's fantastic!  I hope you'll check out it out at ChristianParentingHandbook.com.

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Charlotte lamented about her parenting by telling me this:

“My biggest problem is that I feel guilty when I can’t be consistent. Every parenting book I’ve read talks about the importance of consistency, but I’m running from here to there, get- ting things done, and my husband parents differently than I do. I feel like I’m failing because I can’t be as consistent as I would like to be.”

Charlotte has three children, ages eleven, seven, and four. For the most part, she’s doing quite well, but she’s plagued with an overarching sense of guilt when things go wrong. The voice inside tells her the problems in her kids would go away if she were more consistent, but is that really the answer?

We’ve all heard that consistency is the key to good parenting. But many parents believe it’s more important than it really is. If you’re doing simple behavior modification, then consistency is essential. Giving the reward or punishment every time you see the behavior will reinforce change.

The problem is that behavior modification embraces humanistic thinking, the belief that people are just a higher form of animals. The Bible teaches something very different.

God created people different from animals. He gave each person a spiritual “heart,” and that heart affects the learning process. The heart contains things such as emotions, desires, convictions, and passion. In short, the heart is a wrestling place where decisions are made. A child’s tendencies come from the heart. When a child lies to get out of trouble, that’s a heart issue. If a brother reacts with anger each time his sister is annoying, that’s a heart issue too. Simply focusing on behavior may provide some quick change, but lasting change takes place in the heart. We’re not saying behavior modification is wrong. We’re just suggesting that it’s incomplete and, in the end, lacks the depth for long-term and lasting change.

Parents who simply use behavior modification often end up with kids who look good on the outside while having significant problems on the inside. Consistency can teach kids to appear good, clean, and nice, but to help them change their hearts, other parenting skills must be added to the picture.

Developing a strong, biblical parenting philosophy requires you to embrace a more comprehensive approach that focuses on the heart. Looking beyond behavior modification calls for different parenting tools. When you focus on the heart, another quality becomes even more important than consistency: creativity.

The heart is where children hold their beliefs. It’s where they develop operating principles about life. Kids learn through experience, stories, activity, and modeling. Sometimes children develop resistance in their hearts to a consistent approach.

Creativity has the ability to move around children’s resistance and allows a truth to explode with meaning inside the heart. The best teachers are those who use creative teaching methods to communicate their point.

Please don’t misunderstand. Consistency is important, especially when kids are young. But if you think more broadly about parenting and embrace creativity and strategy in your training, you’ll be more effective at molding the hearts of your kids at any age. Your primary task as parent is to teach your kids, and a little work in the creativity department can make all the difference.

For more ideas about moving from a behavior modification to a heart-based approach to parenting, visit biblicalparenting.info.

Book Review - Maya Was Grumpy

I let my kids review this whimsical and creative book - Maya was Grumpy:

Brendan, age 8
It is awesome!  It's very funny and it has good drawings with great colors.  My favorite part of the book was the playground scene when Maya and her Gramma were swinging with the monkeys, sliding down giraffe's necks...  I wish my Gramma could come to see me to get me out of my grumpy moods.

Anna Kate, age 6
I love Maya's long crazy hair, the cute little birds and the playground page.  It's very creative!

The kids recommend this book for girls and boys ages 1-20 (though mom suggests 4 -10).  They also suggest this as a resource for counselors and parents to talk with their kids about feelings.

Disclaimer:  The publisher sent this book in exchange for our honest reviews.

Book Review - Ambition's Not an Awful Word

Ambition’s Not an Awful Word - 5 stars!

Review by Brendan, age 8

It was awesome.  Zach Zage is the author and the main character in the book.  He is telling kids what he wants to be when he grows up – like an astronaut, a singer, a chef, a writer, or a lawyer with Perry Mason by his side.  It’s a silly book that is quite entertaining – I laughed outloud.  Kids can get ideas for what they want to be when they grow up, and it gives parents a chance to talk with their kids about careers.  The pictures are very silly, and I like them.  If you are looking for a good book for entertainment, or you want to think about jobs, you will like this book.