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Dads and Daughters - Free Copy of the Book by James Dobson

Get a free copy of James Dobson's new book, Dads and DaughtersThanks to Faithful Provisions for the heads up!

Sibling Rivalry - a repost from Generation Cedar

We all desire (or should!) to help our children tie heart strings with each other. ”Sibling rivalry” is so common in our day that many parents just accept it. I suggest to you that though sibling strife is common, and some would say normal, it should not be accepted in a Christian home as such.


It is possible and appropriate that siblings should share some of the tenderest, sweetest and most protective relationships of all. But unless we, as parents, understand this and are willing to do the hard work to cultivate it, we can expect nothing less than what comes naturally.

Read the rest of her practical post on Generation Cedar's website.

Be Firm Without Being Harsh - Parenting Tip from BiblicalParenting.org

Some parents believe that the only way to be firm is to be harsh. Firmness says that a boundary is secure and won't be crossed without a consequence. Harshness uses angry words and increased volume to make children believe that parents mean what they say. Some parents have assumed that firmness and harshness must go together. One mom said, "The thought of separating the two is like listening to a foreign language—it sounds nice but doesn't make any sense."
How do you make the change? Two things will help you remove harshness from your interaction with your children: Dialogue less and show less emotion. In an attempt to build relationship, some parents spend too much time dialoguing about instructions. They try to defend their words, persuade their children to do what they're told, or logically explain the value of obeying. This is often counterproductive. Parents then resort to anger to end the discussion, complicating matters further.

"But," one mom said…

Love Languages - How They Impact Marriages

Our marriage has greatly benefitted from the simply study of Love Languages by Gary Chapman.  His work talks about the primary way that we like to give and receive love.  I would recommend reading his book or exploring his website, but here is a simple reflection tool to ponder which of the 5 love languages is your primary language.  (The italicized words are copied from Chapman's website)

Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.
§Likes praise, encouragement, and compliments §Dislikes hurtful words and deceit Quality Time In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and…