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Strong-Willed Kids - Reprint from Biblical Parenting

I feel like the authors of this article were writing directly to me, in regards to my eldest son...

Children who make decisions with intensity tend to be labeled “strong-willed.” At the end of the day, their parents feel as if they’ve been engaged in hand-to-hand combat—and that the child often wins at the parent’s expense! Most parents consider a strong will a negative personality trait because it often creates resistance and frustration in family life. Yet, in reality, it’s the strong-willed kids who are often better equipped to succeed, be creative, and face adversity.

Children with strong wills have the potential to become the next generation of leaders. They have their own ideas and plans. They know what they want. They’re persistent, confident, passionate, and determined to succeed at whatever they choose to do.

Leaders have an agenda, look for ways to incorporate others into their plans, and have a high need for control in life. Balanced with graciousness, leaders become a treasu…

When God Wants an Important Thing Done in this World

“When God wants an important thing done in this world or a wrong righted, He goes about it in a very singular way. He doesn’t release thunderbolts or stir up earthquakes. God simply has a tiny baby born, perhaps of a very humble home, perhaps of a very humble mother. And God puts the idea or purpose into the mother’s heart. And she puts it in the baby’s mind, and then – God waits. The great events of this world are not battles and elections and earthquakes and thunderbolts. The great events are babies, for each child comes with the message that God is not yet discouraged with humanity, but is still expecting goodwill to become incarnate in each human life.”
Edmond McDonald
This quote is a great reminder to me when I'm in the middle of struggles with the personalities and passions of my children.  God designed them just the way they are!
Yes, they have sin natures, and it's my job to humbly point them towards God's ways as I shape their character. 
But sometimes I get frustra…

Unplugging to Rest

These reflections on the importance of Sabbath rest are from my brother-in-law.  I thought you might also appreciate them:

Dear Church Family,

I am currently on our family summer vacation at the beach, and I am wondering why I sometimes struggle to really enjoy vacation and unplug. Working without stopping has become our hallmark as Americans. We are among the most “productive” workers in the world. We don’t leave our post. We just work.

For others, the constant drive is social networking. We stay connected at all hours. I think that sometimes it is fear that fuels our “connectedness.” Maybe we think we’re more valuable as people and workers because we don’t unplug. Everyone can count on us to be there. If we weren’t there, everything would most certainly fall apart, or so we think. I believe our “productivity” costs us a lot in terms of our health, our lives, our families and our worship. From my viewpoint, we are a people who desperately need periods of time to unplug.

Genesis tells us…

Child Training Resources

If you're struggling with first-time obedience, respect, and happy hearts in your home, I have a book that might encourage you.  Michael & Debi Pearl's book, To Train Up a Child, is a classic when it comes to child training. 

If you're looking for an easy way to get smiley children, this is the wrong book for you.  But if you want to truly mold the hearts of your children, and you're willing to put in the required time and attention to train them, this will be a book you will reread time and time again.

They also have a good collection of free articles on their website, on topics such as:

•Bed Wetting
•Challenging Authority
•Emotional Control
•Self Control
•Sibling Rivalry / Fighting

I'd love to hear about your favorite parenting resources too, so please share!

Sibling Conflict: A Great Opportunity (repost from Biblical Parenting)

"When the bickering gets too bad I just go in my room and shut the door!" one mom said in exasperation. The fact is that many parents believe the solution to arguing and bickering is to allow children to "fight it out."

That's one solution parents commonly use when their children start fighting. Other parents separate the children and try to keep them apart in order to maintain peace. They imitate a referee at a boxing match, breaking up the conflict and sending the fighters to their opposite corners. Unfortunately, continually separating children doesn't solve the problem. In fact, the children often come back again to fight some more.

We believe both of these solutions are inadequate because they lack the depth needed to bring about lasting change. When parents only separate the offenders or walk away, they miss valuable opportunities to help their children grow.

Conflict with brothers and sisters is a child's first class in relationship school. Your ho…

Success on the Grill! Jared's Rib Rub

My brother-in-law shared a great rub recipe with us a few years ago.  Now we mix it in batches to keep on hand for ribs and chicken.  The recipe makes enough for 6 racks of ribs.

Jared’s Rub
1/2c brown sugar
1/2c white sugar
.5 c paprika
2.5T pepper
2.5T salt
1.5T chili powder
2T garlic powder
1.5T onion powder
Mix together. Rub over the meat. Grill. Add BBQ sauce at the end of grilling.